After pregnancy, the first stages of recovery will be spent on clearing your head from post-partum depression. The first weeks or even months may feel very dark and as if the world were ending. That is because it is. However, having positive and helpful thoughts and feelings during this time in your life will help you get through this period more easily.
It is important that you try to avoid negative thoughts and feelings, no matter how hard they may seem at the time. Instead, focus on the good things that you accomplished after your pregnancy loss. This will help to put you in a good mood and give you a sense of accomplishment. It will also help you to see that although you were not able to breastfeed, you were able to carry a life and that you are a resilient person who can overcome whatever was thrown your way.
It is also important to remember that while you may have experienced a loss of a pregnancy, you are not losing your baby. You and your baby both have feelings and emotions that will be with you forever. You should be able to put your baby into a peaceful sleep every night, even if you cannot physically do so. Try to stay busy and keep your mind active so that you do not think about the sadness that you may feel over the loss of your baby.
As you prepare to move on with your life, think positively. This will help you see that there are always new chances and new ways to accomplish things. Instead of wallowing in your past, consider the positives in your life now. This will give you a new lease on life.
Pregnancy is a wonderful experience for both you and your baby. Do not allow the feelings of sadness and grief to distract you from what is important in your life now. You should take time to celebrate the uniqueness of your baby, yourself, and your new relationship. Think of all the good that this experience can teach you and help you create positive feelings and memories so that you can move forward with your life without any worries or fears of how your new baby will fare.
Remember that you do not have to allow negative thoughts and feelings to control your life after pregnancy loss. Focus on the positive things that have happened to you and your baby. Also, remember that it is OK to cry, especially if you need to. Crying is a natural and normal thing during this time. If you let go of the sadness that comes along with these feelings, you will find that you will recover much faster than if you bury your feelings and hope in the empty void.